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Beliefs and behaviour

In step one you asked what really matters to you, in step two you connected with why you want this, in step three you looked at your resources. Now in step four,to gain momentum, you will benefit from taking a look at your beliefs or the stories you tell yourself and your behaviour or habits.

How mentally prepared are you?

If you want to change your life, you need to change your outlook. To reinvent yourself, you need to reinvent your expectations. Expect life can be different, expect solutions, expect you can make things happen.

Our beliefs about ourselves and the world are created by our experience and help us to make sense of the world. Beliefs help us to function and to keep ourselves safe. When you change or your situation changes, that belief may no longer serve you well. You need to know what beliefs empower you and what beliefs hold you back.

What beliefs empower you?

Write down 3.

What beliefs are holding you back?

Write down 3.

Change them by asking yourself:

  • When did this belief start?
  • Where did it come from?
  • How was it useful in the past?
  • What’s changed?
  • Now, how could you change your belief to one that will enable you, one that will give you wings? When you do this take account of your strengths, your ability to learn, what your best friend would tell you.
  • Suspend the belief for a while. What could you do if you were not ___(insert your belief)?

We grow up with stories – in our family or community – that limit us and what we think we can do. e.g.“It’s always been this way” “Bad luck runs in the family” “Who do you to think you are to change your life/the world?”

Who says you can’t? When you raise your expectations, you can achieve great things. Playing small does not benefit us and it does not benefit the world.

Behaviour and habits

What behaviour do you need to change?

Behaviour that has got you this far, may not be the behaviour needed to take you in your new direction.

What do you need to do differently?

If you’re doing something new, you will need a new approach. Observe what others in a similar setting, who are successful, are doing. Read articles and books about what may work for you;watch videos by motivational speakers; network with people that will help you to grow.

What do you need to stop doing?

Your new course of action will take energy and time. Time spent on things that don’t energise you or serve a purpose  is time lost. Check how you are spending your time – there are 24 hours in a day.

What do you need to start doing?

You can’t change everything at once so plan on taking action on one thing .

Consistency is key:one small action every day will have an accumulative effect. You may not notice change for weeks but when you look back you will see a difference.Like they say Rome was not built in a day!

What habits have outlived their purpose?

You can’t stop a habit but you can replace it with one that’s more effective.The important thing is to identify the habit – recognise when you’re going on automatic pilot. Stop. Think. How could you replace this with healthy or useful behaviour?

How do you self-sabotage?

You may want something so badly but act in such a way that it won’t happen or it will fail. Are you scared of success or being happy?  This could link in with those beliefs about yourself that hold you back. It is scary to take responsibility for making choices but they are yours to make. It is scary to think your life will change but isn’t it exciting? Isn’t that what you want? Remember your why, why you want this dream.

In step five you will look at Making it work, Taking action.

Reinvention coaching is helping you to change your life so you spend time and energy on who and what matters to you.